How Blessing Your Children Can Transform Their Destiny Forever

The Hidden Force Shaping Your Child’s Future

As parents, spouses, or even individuals reflecting on our own lives, we’ve all uttered words in moments of frustration. But what if those words hold the key to life or death, prosperity or struggle? This blog explores the power of blessing your children, why it’s essential, and practical steps to harness it. Whether you’re a new parent navigating toddler tantrums or a seasoned guardian dealing with teenage rebellion, these insights could rewrite your family’s legacy.

What Is a Blessing? Beyond Material Gifts

At its core, blessing isn’t about handing out cars, houses, or cash (common misconceptions that limit our understanding). As Bishop Chris explains in Blessing: The Culture of God, the Hebrew word “Baraka” translates to “good things spoken” or simply “benediction.” In the New Testament, the Greek “eulogio” means “to speak well of” and “to cause to prosper.” Even the Beatitudes describe blessedness as “makarios“, being well-off, happy, fortunate, or supremely blessed by God’s approval.

Blessing is God’s very nature: divine goodness. God created us to bless, not curse. From Genesis, we see this pattern. God blessed animals and humans to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). After the flood, He blessed Noah’s family similarly (Genesis 9:1). No living thing thrives without this spoken goodness. Yet, in our fallen world, negativity creeps in, often from sinful influences post-Eden.

Ask yourself: How often do we default to criticism instead of encouragement? This shift from blessing to cursing stems from humanity’s expulsion from Eden, where hardship birthed negative speech. But there’s hope: Jesus restores us to Godliness, making room for positivity in His presence.

The Dangers of Negative Words: Curses in Disguise

We’ve all heard (or said) phrases like “You stubborn child!” or “You’ll never amount to anything.” These aren’t harmless vents; they’re declarations that invite darkness. Proverbs 18:21 warns, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Your words can produce life or death, light or shadow.

Bishop Chris distinguishes between a child’s personality (current traits like stubbornness) and destiny (God-ordained future as a leader, innovator, or influencer). Negative words don’t just address the now. They sabotage the future. Jeremiah 29:11 promises God’s thoughts toward us are “of good and not of evil, to bring about the future you hope for.” Yet, spoken negativity derails this.

Biblical examples abound:

Rachel and Benjamin: In labor pains, Rachel named her son “Ben-Oni” (son of my sorrow). Jacob wisely changed it to “Benjamin” (son of my right hand), averting a cursed legacy.
Jabez: Born in pain, his mother named him “Jabez” (he causes pain). He struggled until praying for reversal, becoming more honorable than his brothers (1 Chronicles 4:9-10).
The Prodigal Son: His father likely spoke blessings even in absence, welcoming him back with a feast (Luke 15).
Job: Amid trials, Job cursed his birth day, prolonging his suffering until repentance (Job 3).

Remember, angels execute positive declarations (Holy Spirit as executor), while demons seize negatives. Job 22:28 says, “Declare a thing, and it will be established; light will shine on your ways.” The inverse? Darkness engulfs paths paved with negativity.

How to Bless Your Child: Practical Steps from Scripture

Blessing isn’t mystical; it’s intentional speech aligned with God’s will. Here’s how to do it effectively:

Understand God’s Nature: Meditate on blessing as God’s culture. He chooses blessing over cursing (Genesis choices). Emulate this: Speak multiplication, prosperity, and goodness.
Guard Your Thoughts: Philippians 4:8 instructs, “Whatever is true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report. If there is any virtue or anything praiseworthy. Meditate on these things.” Reframe your mind: Scan thoughts for negativity and replace with praise. Proverbs 4:23 adds, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” As you think, so you speak and become (Proverbs 23:7).
Speak Life Daily: Look at your child and declare: “You are a global champion!” “You will be a head of state!” “Favor will locate you!” Do this regardless of behavior. Use the rod for correction (Proverbs 13:24), but never words that curse.
Reverse Past Negatives: If you’ve spoken wrongly (even in pregnancy frustrations), call your child and revoke: “I cancel those words. You are not a burden. You are a blessing. You will amount to greatness.” One father, after reading Bishop Chris’s book, traveled to bless his scattered children.
Extend to Spouse and Self: Bless your partner: Declarations like “You are my joy” manifest reality. Self-bless: Counter negativity with affirmations rooted in God’s promises.

Embrace the Culture of Blessing

Proverbs 4:18 promises the just’s path shines brighter daily. Your words fuel this. In a world quick to criticize, choose blessing. It’s your divine inheritance. It’s never too late. Start today, and watch destinies transform.

The power of blessing your child isn’t optional. It’s a biblical mandate for transgenerational legacy. Everyone can experience a glorious marriage and leave a transgenerational legacy.

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